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10:08pm

June 5, 2017
what time is it?
broken clock
time for terror?
time for fear?
time for outrage?
time for courage?
 
time to question?
time to investigate?
time to interrogate?
time to examine our lives?
 
time to bind wounds?
time to bind the strongman?
time to bind and band and bond together?
time to redouble our strength?
time to declare war?
time to pray for peace?
time to work for peace?
time to ask what makes for war?
 
time to find some heroes?
time to name some villains?
time to valorise the victims?
time to catch the culprits?
 
time to be sure we know the difference…
 
time to sort the sheep from the goats,
the wheat from the chaff
to eat the middle fruit and know good and evil?
time to know our own selves?
time for emotional speeches?
time to show compassion for the bereaved?
time to show compassion for all?
time to hug our children tightly?
time to love our enemies?
time to reread our history?
time to tell our stories?
time to check our facts?
time to check facebook?
time to face facts?
time to shake our heads in bewilderment?
time to nod our heads in certainty?
time to turn our heads and look?
time to hang our heads in shame?
time to bow our heads in humble prayer?
 
time to accuse?
time to refuse rumour?
not time to use humour?
 
time to legislate?
time to lynch?
time to listen?
time to love?
 
time to fortify?
time to forge ahead?
time to forgive?
 
too soon?
 
what time is it now, then?
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Four o’clock II

May 22, 2017

the four o’clock brain
switches on
a multiscreen extravaganza.
suddenly
the surround sound
is playing on 11
and I am in a cylinder
a dozen screens three stories high
each playing
one of the 12 worst moments of my day
larger than life
in high definition detail
there my every foible
failing false-step,
forgot my part,
frozen terror
judgement error,
missed the beat,
came in late,
clumsy stumble,
awkward turn,
crash landing.

No escaping
this action replay
Locked in its
loud and lurid and unloving
spools.
I would close my eyes
but it plays on the back of my eyelids
it plays mind and heart
and then out through bones and nerves
the day’s moments
though all so intimately known to me
shock me all over again
startled
I shiver and flinch
convulse and twitch
mutter explete and groan

This nightly screening
the call to confession

turns out to be
a preview trailer
to the main feature
one story across all screens
rising sun, dawning day
in which Grace
wins everytime.

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Spare the Rod and exegete your scripture properly.

April 25, 2017
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Maurice Sendak, Where the Wild Things Are.

Responding to a question about Christian parents smacking their children, on the grounds of the ‘Spare the rod, hate your child’ verse in Proverbs. 

In Sendak’s classic 1963 story book, the young lad Max is disciplined, sent to bed without supper, for his behaviour. His creative, emotional, imaginative, disruptive behaviour. How would you parent Max? How would you discipline him. Does Max’s little emotionally complex world need ‘discipline’? Or something else?

The use of corporal punishment (deliberately hurting the body in order to motivate obedience) is understood by many Christians to be a parenting practice not only permitted in scripture, but actively promoted and even prescribed as a righteous and wise way of raising children.

There are many other motivations and philosophical rationalisations for using physical pain as a means of punishment.  But in this space I want to specifically clarify why citing the verses in proverbs like these aren’t a straightforward command or recommendation for parenting our young children with physical punishments.

Prov. 13:24 Those who spare the rod hate their [sons], but those who love them are diligent to discipline them.

Prov. 22:15 Folly is bound up in the heart of a boy, but the rod of discipline drives it far away.

Prov. 23:13-14 Do not withhold discipline from your [sons]; if you beat them with a rod, they will not die.  If you beat them with the rod, you will save their lives from Sheol.

Prov. 19:18 Discipline your [sons] while there is hope; do not set your heart on their destruction.

There are a few of really basic things to lock in first in reading these texts.

First of all, they are not general parenting advice texts. 

These verses in Proverbs are from  genre of literature which belongs to the schools of the elite,  providing philosophical and rhetorical and moral education to the young men of the nation who would assume responsibilities in civic leadership and influence.

The context here is what we might term tertiary, or at least senior secondary education. However we end up interpreting these texts, none of them are providing us with a template for parenting our infants, our toddlers, or our children in the primary years.

Valuing and protecting young children 

Rabbis in the centuries before the early Christian era discussed the obligations of men to father children by second and third wives. Although they argued about the exact number the law might righteously require of a man to sire, the discussion circled around the territory of requiring 5 or 6 children – in order that 2 might survive to become procreative adults themselves, thus sustaining the family line.

From this discussion we readily see that children were not taken for granted – their lives are understood to be precarious, and precious. High birthrates are met by high infant mortality rates, and high mortality rates full stop. The idea of physically harming young growing children is culturally out of step. Children are not ‘spoiled’ or indulged in such a culture – they often are hard working contributors to household economies from a young age accompanying older family members and siblings in the tasks of household (whether slave or free).

Nevertheless, young children are particularly referred to throughout the biblical literature, not as being smacked or hit, and definitely not hit with the rod (see below) but characteristically gathered in protective and affectionate arms.  (Is 49:22, 23; Hosea 11:3)

Furthermore the young child, definitely at least to the age of seven (though some scholars would argue up to age twelve), is morally defined as without the knowledge of good and evil. In other words, young children are not recognised as capable of moral comprehension or culpability. Whether or not you agree with that in the light of modernist social science developmental stage theories, the important point to recognise in the biblical texts is that corporal punishment would be wasted on young children whose moral comprehension was not yet activated.

Children often appear in biblical material presented as an allegory for goodness of several kinds – the blessings of life, of prosperity, of moral innocence, of eternal hope.

Children, then are not primarily the object of the need for discipline, but for nurturing survival strategies.

This is not to claim that no one in the ancient communities represented in the scriptures ever smacked their child. What can be said is that use of physical punishment for children is not recommended, and definitely not mandated in the scriptures these ancients faithfully have left us.

The rod.

The rod is the instrument of the teacher and the pedagogue (the supervisor or chaperon slave accompanying the youth to his lessons.). It is the teaching software of the ancient world and it has multiple applications: It is used for tracing out characters and shapes to be imitated by emerging scribes, it is used for tapping rhythm during recitation in rote learning, much like the ballet master’s rod, it is used for measurement – and it is used for retrieving the attention of a wandering mind or inflicting a motivational blow to a recalcitrant young man.

If we understand Proverbs 13:4 says something like ‘don’t hold back; make full use of the rod’ – we are to understand that not as a call to the limited application of the rod in physical punishment, but to utilising the full gamut of educational applications. I am a teacher – I was born to teach – and so I am an enthusiastic champion of education keeping a really well stocked tool box of many different pedagogies and learning facilitation methods. And so I am in robust agreement with this maxim – don’t spare the rod! If you’ve got a rod – that’s a multi-use versatile teaching aid right there – so don’t you dare limit it’s use to simple blunt violence. Don’t spare the rod – this is about educational technologies – we should hear this as ‘don’t spare the ipad and only use it for word processing.’

The rod, not the smack

Often this verse about the rod is used to support the practice of smacking, blatantly – or perhaps simply naively – disregarding that being hit with a rod, and being slapped with the hand, are two quite different cultural/symbolic actions. The open hand slap means something very different to the use of the rod in terms of status of the parties involved. In our modern parenting culture, the open hand smack means something different again – and it is an action about which Proverbs and the wisdom literature of the Bible is silent. We may not look to scripture to find direct support for this practice. 

Young elite males

There are a handful of other verses in Proverbs that promote a robust discipline of sons. We note this – sons. And we remain mindful that the genre of literature isn’t the parenting section of an ancient Better Homes and Gardens – but the hand book of the elite training institution for the emerging (male) leadership of the city.

In this context,  of strong, privileged youths, one well can understand the use of a rod for beating (although I’m not going to endorse it for my fine young adult sons), as a means for curbing the bounding egos even as they are being cultivated for  claiming and occupying status and honour, ascending the social order with confidence and competence. Here, the use of the rod by the teacher or the pedagogue is wielded against an almost-peer, in fact for the pedagogue slave, the youth, son of the father will overtake the slave in status very soon.

Yes, I do mean males.  Gender. 

We specifically note that Proverbs consistently addresses the issue of training sons. Not children, but specifically the sons. This is not a case (as the use of adelphoi in the New Testament epistles is) of a masculine term standing in for the generic, inclusive male and female community. Here ‘sons’ means grown, almost adult, male offspring. 

So if you have daughters, these texts are not for you. By the time your daughters are the parallel age of your sons in these texts, they will be well married and hopefully with child themselves.

I’m joking, of course. This is not the approach we take to the potential orientations of our sons and daughters lives. The dissimilarity from the world of Proverbs is alarming.

If you know me at all, you’ll know that, like many others of my generation and culture,  I don’t support differentiated cultural treatment of male and females: not of any age.

I strongly assert that whatever the marks of respect are for one gender – being listened to, given agency, kept safe, offered help and hospitality when needed, their actual abilities and capacities being recognised, valued and employed – these must be the marks of respect for all.

So I and others will be confounded by the focus on sons, so exclusively, but the text er have received concerns itself particularly with that group. And if we know our history of the people of Israel, and their struggle to hold an identity in oppression, we will understand why Proverbs makes this group a priority.

The focus on sons here, connects to the cultural context into which this advice is written: it is  urban, elite, powerful, privileged male focussed, patriarchal, philosophical, and seeking to fit in with the dominant culture of their oppressors. We ought be cautious in reworking this rarefied material for the basic task of raising our kids. You can see the hint of overkill here, if we attempt to use the methods of tertiary vocational training, simply to try and encourage our two year old to get into the carseat.

Crossing cultures

It is clear that the deployment of the rod in the ancient elite scholastic communities carried a cultural weight that authenticated the practice. It was uncontroversial for physical discipline to be linked with training the mind and body. In making the man. The education of young men, influenced by hellenic norms,  was typically holistic, engaging mind, body, speech, culture, aesthetics, deportment, style and renowned for agonistic, physically competitive ethos, that deeply embedded the zero-sum system of honour and same into the lives of students.

A positive reading of these verses in Proverbs, recommending the incorporation of corporal discipline, is a fair reading, but it  in no way crosses contexts and relational dynamics and cultural purposes into forming an ethic for contemporary parenting practices with young children. To put THIS into practice – the elitism, the age, the gender, the rod technology, for parenting the tender years, is anachronisitc on multiple levels.

I don’t know of many parents who, having negotiated the stages of autonomy, initiative, industry and identity with other kinds relational parenting skills not involving physical punishment, in the later years of adolescence embark on beating their sons.

When the book of  Proverbs calls for the rod – it calls for it to be applied not to children but youths, not in the midst of domestic life but in the academy, not to the poor but the elite, not to girls  but to young men, it calls for it to be used rhythmically, demonstratively, mathematically, and yes – sometimes – violently.

All of this doesn’t mean a parent must not smack their child. It has been a popular and respected practice in many societies over time. Though, we note, not all. Smacking is not universal.  It is very possible to raise wonderful, ethical collaborative, other-oriented children without smacking. Personally, I have nailed my colours to this mast, and am content that my non-smacking parenting has gifted me two lovely young men who are well convinced that troubles  can be solved  without physical aggression, and understand respect and helpfulness.

While the texts of Proverbs doesn’t forbid the smacking of children, and it doesn’t endorse smacking children, it does mean that parents who choose to smack their children will need to admit to themselves that they are not using a biblically approved method. Christians  do lots of things in non-biblical, or perhaps better to say abiblical,  ways. Preaching and sitting in pews come to mind as easy examples of abiblical practices. That doesn’t mean they are are terrible (though they might be) but it does mean that we must work hard to uncover the real reasons we do them, because claiming they are the ‘biblical way’ is just not credible, responsible exegetical straight shooting.

Why do parents use physical punishment?

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#thingsonlychristianwomenhear

April 22, 2017
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Church Toilets, Perth, Western Australia

In the last 48 hours the hashtag  #thingsonlychristianwomenhear has gone viral in the english speaking world. Women in christian ministry like me have bucket loads of examples of sexist comments they have encountered over time, and we have been posting them on social media like its page 47 of a Tim LaHaye book.

There’s been lots of  ‘I can’t believe someone said that to you’ comments – though this is the point we are trying to make. This kind of gendered put down and dimissal is stitched right through the lining of the church.

There have also been some valiant attempts by men for solidarity.

Sydney Baptist missiologist Mike Frost went this direction. I get what he’s trying to do here. He wants to bust off what he sees as a facade of spirituality or theology or biblicism or hermeneutics that covers dirty old fashioned sexism. I agree, using theology or scripture to cover up a sociological preference is foul play all round. Where that is happening by all means call it out.

But contrary to Mike Frost’s take on the #thingsonlychristianwomenhear

I think it’s important not to just lump all ‘sexism’ together. The things christian women hear in the church have a particular impact because they occur in a theological context. This ought not be dismissed.

When I encounter sexism in the secular workplace a humanist material line of reasoning, or at very base, a legal framework can address the issue.

For example:’Don’t say ‘let’s the girls to go down and get us some coffees while we nail the final detail on this proposal.’ That’s inappropriate exclusion of participants in the decision making on the basis of gender. It’s not legal.

In churches and christian contexts, there are those who claim exemption from legal responsibilities on theological grounds. and to raise objection to sexism necessarily draws forward the backdrop of spiritual and theological conversation. It always gets spiritual, which is to say, it gets personal.

So it’s not ok to just say ‘that’s *just* sexism, let’s not be sexist any arright?’ without acknowledging the theological content that protects the sexist practices. Because 100% of the people who would differentiate fitness for leadership, moral trust and gravity on the basis of gender, do not think they are being sexist, they think they are being faithful to the revealed and impermeable Law of God.

The discussion IS theological, and until we can find a way to respect that, we will be ever frustrated.

I understand that in some communities, women are not permitted to preach on theological grounds. I would not expect to preach there. I want churches to make their decisions theologically. I don’t ever want to be one to argue for accommodations to some other ideology.

I am placing my bets on Jesus as the incontestable Risen Lord of the cosmos and the kingdom he proclaimed, inaugurated and calls us to incarnate as one in him. I expect my gender policies to conform to this reality.  And so I don’t want churches to deviate from their spirit led and scripture formed convictions either.

But I do want to call out the theological cross currents in the communities I have served in that espouse a robust, faithful egalitarian reading of scripture, yet speak and behave in sexist ways that contravene that theology. Not because its 2017 and sexism is so 1950s (cos its not) but because God. Because God in Christ reconciling all in all. Let the world argue for social conventions and revisions, but let the followers of Jesus make their decisions theologicially.

In the end, for my own faith and practice,  I’m confident in faithful readings of scripture that make it clear spiritual service and leadership is given to the weak, the unsuspecting, the unworthy and the ignoble – but I guess if that means men, it means men…

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The first day of the rest of your life

April 19, 2017

As I was growing up, my Dad would proclaim with great regularity:

‘Today is the first day of the rest of your life’.

It was a little pithy sermon brimful of hope, of  second chance grace, of giving life another crack, whatever yesterday had been like. It was an irresistible invitation. And it was one that I came to understand that he wasn’t just saying, but living in very hope and resilience before my eyes. He still does.

That childhood was also Eggsfull of scripture stories and speeches of the kingdom of God – of  something starting all over again. Something that meant not just a few corners of things being better, but a second chance for the cosmos – a new creation – both new heavens and new earth. Not a bit of reality is left out of this offer. Even heaven is scooped into newness. Jesus himself leads the way with resurrection, the ultimate ‘first day of the rest of your life’ model. 

We learned to pray for this – ‘let God’s kingdom come’.  This is a ‘day one’ that is constantly coming. And the call of living as a follower of Jesus, the art of living as a follower of Jesus, is exactly this – living as if this is day one.

And that this is day one for everyone. No holding on to past grudges, past failures. You don’t live day one as if you’re going to die at the end of it – though in fact you might. To live in this day one – is to live as if you know there are endless days ahead for what really matters, so no panic or knee jerk reactions to scuttle around in a zero-sum game, but also it gathers for us fresh energy not to sit idly as if this day doesn’t count. It is day one after all. Endless days ahead of what really matters – justice, peace, the hungry filled, the homeless welcomed, the debt-crushed liberated, the dead raised – so Day One it’s  worth investing in these long term, for endless days. 

Easter. This is the life that resurrection declares. There are thousands of days ahead, whoever we are – because death is no definer of life. We aren’t on a fearful
countdown to death. The day of death will come and go – but all of our time stretches out in boundless love of God. 

 

today is the first of thousands

day one of many more

and so I’ve got strength for the mountains

who can say what I’ll have strength for

 

day one of many hundreds

they’re gonna roll out in time

pouring down with a grace that thunders

all we need for the end of this climb

 

when we’ll meet out on the horizon

and look with visions past sun and star

and all that we might set our eyes on

will be invitation to love as we are

 

day one of many turnings

round all the corners that call

every day a million questions

only one word to answer them all

 

today is the first of thousands

day one of the rest of our lives

but I’m not one for the counting

just choosing to love in the now that arrives

 

so this is day one – day one of the rest of our lives

 

heart and mind in the clouds a-soaring

finding freedom and rest

yet feet firm here

in my endless exploring

following fierce my quest

 

til we meet out on the horizon

hold our hearts full of hoping

and all that we might set our eyes on

is love’s large welcome and arms wide open

 

day one of all forever

endless the days of grace

love stretches out around us

filling every time and space

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The Borders of Heartland – a new creation prayer

March 21, 2017

O God

you have given us large hearts for loving

in the likeness of your own

seeming strong hearts, patient, forbearing hearts

that can endure much,

forgive much, grace much.

Hearts that can speak and sigh

Hearts that can heave and howl

Hearts that may grieve and grow

Hearts that sink and soar

Hearts that long and yearn

Hearts that leap and learn

Hearts that race and rest

Hearts that beat and burst

Hearts that can open and overflow

Your heart-gifts to us are many.

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But in your wisdom

you have not given us

invincible hearts

infinite hearts

immortal hearts

insurable hearts.

Our hearts, mercifully

hurt and ache

fail and break

our hearts know limits and borders

hearts hear pretense

hearts sense awry

hearts smell a rat

hearts cry mercy

hearts call time

hearts feel the cold.

shiver the chill

reach to close the door.

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O God,

Our hearts are but human

and though divine love be boundless

our hearts hit the wall

our hearts stumble and fall

Though Your love pours out freely

from everlasting to everlasting

Our hearts run dry

and as from dust we came,

so our hearts return to dust.

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And yet, yet, still, again…

You gently blow upon this crumbled crusted earth pile

and the merest moisture in your divine loving exhalation

falls in gentlest droplet

the finest mist settles upon us

and soaks in

and tiny fragments hold together

glued by the globules of God

and life again in grace is stirred

and in a love not our own;

love and life returns

rising a muddy mess

but a beating animated heart

buds again in new creation,

barely recognisable – no matter

barely alive – no matter

wholly loved

and – miracle –

loving another time.

Amen.

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It’s Complicated…

March 15, 2017

[This reflection on a story of Jesus talking with a woman by a well in Samaria originally published as a parent conversation starter page for use in Scripture Union Victoria community events.        Beth Barnett, Rewind: John’s Gospel, 2012.]

Was there ever a time when life was simple?
When relationships and families were straightforward?
I don’t think so.
There is a lot of misty eyed sentimentality about the traditional family, but I think that is the extent of it. The ‘traditional’ family is a myth. Or perhaps better to say the ‘traditional’ family is the family with extra hangers on, multiple partners, re-arrangements, relationship bust-ups, people who won’t talk to each other, favourites, scandals, griefs and silent sufferers.

I’m not saying this is the healthy family, or the ideal family. But reading the history books, including the Bible, we get the sense that families have never been quiet, orderly, and predictable. We need to keep our eyes open to the wider world to recognise that what is portrayed as ‘normal’ in our suburban images is really far from normal around the world. Widows and orphans abound, families separated by tragedy and turmoil, multiple partners, extended families, child-headed households, are all part of the ‘normal’ of family life for millions of people around the world.

Skilling up for being family doesn’t mean trying to get everything ordered and straight. Rather it means looking for the ways in which we can find life, real life, in the midst of chaos, change, challenge, heartache and surprises.

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What’s Your Story?
• Do you think you have a ‘normal’ family?
• Are there times when you disagree with others about whether your family is ‘normal’ or 
not?
• How do your kids react to the complicated parts of life?
• Have there been unforseen challenges or surprises that have ‘messed up’ your family, but 
perhaps in a good way?

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What’s God’s Story?

Jesus and a woman are standing by a well, in the heat of the day.

On every level this meeting is extraordinary. In fact, more than that – it’s inappropriate, unlikely, compromising and dodgy.

A man talking to a woman. A Jew talking to a Samaritan. This is not the time to be out in the midday sun. They are clearly both social misfits. The man is unmarried, very strange for that culture.

And all around the town people know that the woman has had a string of husbands. We don’t know why. In her culture there were laws to protect widows that obligated the husband’s next of kin to marry his widow. This could account for her track record. Or perhaps she was divorced; was unfaithfulness in the mix?

Whatever the reason, we know that any of those scenarios mean a life of grief, disruption and things not being ‘normal’.

Jesus chats away though, as if they do this every day, as if everything is normal. For Jesus, with the eyes and the heart of God in human skin, he sees pain and tragedy, things going pear shaped, heartache, settling for second best as completely normal. Jesus has heaps of time for the person who is thirsty for life to get better, and for something other than the rat race of “you’re not good enough” and of “you don’t conform to our idea of normal”. And for everyone who is that kind of thirsty (and who isn’t) Jesus says, “Get to know God – that’ll blow your idea of ‘normal’ right out of the water, and it’ll keep you coming back for more.”